Health & Medical Self-Improvement

The Stories We Tell And The Stories We Hear

The stories we share have the power to empower or disempower the people we come into contact with.
We all have experienced in some way a story that has disempowered us or empowered us; yet to understand its power is to understand its effects on us and through us.
Recently I was having a conversation with a young person who had been the victim of bad storytelling as we all are from time to time.
What struck me about this person was they could understand that the harm that was being done to them was a result of bad storytelling, but they couldn't do anything about it without sitting all the storytellers down and explaining their actions to them.
Sound familiar? Well it should.
We all have been at the other end of a story that was being told to us by someone seemingly well meaning, but had on their heart a story they needed to tell, the way that only they could tell it, for reasons they felt needed to be shared.
Also we have all been a teller of stories at some point in our life where we have shared something from our perspective believing that what we've shared with our whole heart was something that needed to be shared.
However, how often do we check our stories for errors? How often do we put under scrutiny our ego whilst telling a story? More importantly how often do we give attention to how our story may affect the person we are telling the story to? Because when we fail to check our own stories we fail to care about those we feel need to hear our stories.
Many of us have grown up in situations where we have been fed dozens and dozens of stories about people we know or will get to know that aren't favourable.
We've probably even heard these stories so much we can tell them ourselves, in fact we do.
We pass these stories on to our children, family and friends without proper care.
With our actions we expose our loved ones with stories that haven't been verified or checked for errors.
What we fail to understand is how our stories will affect their minds and their ability to perform in life.
Many of us would defend these actions by saying the truth should be told.
However the truth always has many different sides depending on whom you are talking to.
Yet if we want to empower others and those that will come after us we will need to learn to tell the stories that will empower them.
We need to leave our ego out of the equation by understanding our perception is just one perception; it's not right or wrong, it is just the way we see things.
We need to care for others so much that we encourage their empowerment by giving them the chance to develop their own perceptions without us damaging it.
We need to care for others so much that we allow others to crush the disempowering stories that we have shared with them, even if we haven't learned to crush those disempowering stories for ourselves.
And when we surrender our need to be right we can allow others to tell their stories or even adopt stories that they wish to, without the need to try and control what they adopt.
When we learn to tell stories that will empower others we will not only improve our own wellbeing it will encourage fruitfulness all around us.
We will learn that the real empowering stories are the stories that we allow others to create through their perceptions and when they call on us to help them, we can then share with them that whatever keeps your heart unhindered from loving is empowering.
Whatever keeps your mind focused on developing is empowering.
Whatever keeps your spirit free to fly is empowering.
We can tell them that the stories that lift them out of darkness or encourage them to fly are empowering stories.
By giving them the opportunity to create we encourage them to realise they are the creators of their lives; so they better learn to tell good stories.

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